Happiness is a goal directly linked to our dreams. Its pursuit has been important in every era of history however now, with our modern advances in technology, we are told we should be able to enjoy more happiness and live longer. The struggles of the past eras of the industrial revolution have gone yet we seem to live in a world where happiness is just as unobtainable as ever.
Happiness can vary many times over the course of our lives. What you want today may not be what you need tomorrow. There are many workshops, seminars and tips online on how to pursue happiness in order to make your life better and easier. Nevertheless, people are still unhappy with a steady increase in suicide rates in developed countries – the one’s with supposedly better lifestyles. Does not this strike you as somewhat odd?
The right tools – perspective is the key
There are many reasons for unhappiness. Usually it is because the world does not fit your image of how it should be. The problem is that we cannot ever change the world per se. However, what we can do is change ourselves or our perspective of the reality. We can change our patterns, our perceptions and our expectations and with that move towards attaining that which we desire.
So it becomes a process of instead of asking the world for happiness we need to focus on our positive actions for ourselves and others. Since we live in an interactive society what we do has a ripple effect. Instead of focussing on our failures and comparing our weaknesses with others, what if we focused on our successes and abilities? What if we stopped whingeing about what we don’t have and focused on all the good things in our life? This is important because every time we focus on the negatives we are encouraging a mentality of a ‘lack of’ something in our lives and reinforcing it.
An example of this is if you keep focussing on your bills then you think you never have any money and it impedes your ability to enjoy even the smallest luxuries sometimes as you see it all as expenses rather than fun. Whatever you focus on will happen and if it’s negative then you will manifest the negative and draw it towards you. Your own thoughts and perspective will make bad things happen because you are creating that reality around yourself. Often we do this out of habit because the negative reality is our unconscious comfort zone and it is easier to whinge about not being happy instead of being grateful for what we do have in our lives.
Gratefulness is a key to manifesting your dreams. Couple it with motivation and it becomes a major driver to creating a new reality. It may be a good idea to see a life coach or therapist who can support you to become aware of what you really want and break that down into achievable goals. It could be you are hankering for a relationship, a new job, a new house, travel – in short all the good things in life – and why not? Their input can help you expand your sense of self, focus your purpose and enable you to have the guts to become involved in something you love but have been too fearful to try beforehand. Once you have the motivation to move forward it becomes a process of moving from one goal to the next and from one dream to another. In that way your life becomes part of a plan for success instead of aimlessly floating from one year to another and then wondering where all the years disappeared. It’s never too late to start. Start right now!