Busy, stressful days take their toll so it is important to remember to slow down and chill out sometimes. If you don’t do this then life can become overwhelming, you become stressed, anxious, unhappy and depressed. If you are starting to feel this is happening to you there are a few things you can do to make your life happier.
Don’t hold onto the past and stop making excuses
If you want to move forward in life you need to be able to let go and forgive the past. This does not mean to forget as the past is a good way to learn what not to do. However holding onto anger, sadness and negative thoughts or feelings just holds you back, weighs you down and stops you from achieving goals and dreams. Most people that are unhappy find that this is a huge part of the reason. Learn to be kind to yourself and treat yourself as you would a best friend. It’s ok to mistakes, it’s ok to fight with someone and get angry and it is ok to be sad and unhappy at times but we need to also remember to move on from these things otherwise we end up making our whole lives a misery. Don’t make excuses – replace them with positive thinking and to help you with that smart people see a counsellor or therapist for new input, to bounce ideas off or to teach them new coping and management skills for their life.
You don’t have to be always right but you do need to take responsibility for your actions
Some people have to always be right and take it personally if they are caught out and considered not right. If you are wrong then you need to own up. It’s ok to say you were wrong. This kind of behaviour is a leftover from our past when we were children and praised for good behaviour. Sometimes if we did the wrong thing we would blame others and not take responsibility for our actions for fear of punishment. In this way as adults we sometimes always try to be right and not take responsibility when we are wrong. It’s a left over bad habit we learnt as a child. A compulsion to always be right and reaction to shift the blame can come from a fear of losing friends, becoming isolated and fear of being isolated and unhappy. Controlling the urge to be right all the time will help stop this from happening. Taking responsibility for your mistakes and own up. This will earn people’s trust and respect.
Lose your unreasonable expectations and limited beliefs
Reaching a goal at work or a promotion in some ways might be more burdening than you think. Are you struggling to get through the work load? This often leads to feelings of self-doubt and a belief of failure when this is not the case. If something is too much for you then you may need to be more practical and step back from the situation as it could be compromising other areas of your life and affecting your happiness. Are you putting unreasonable expectations on yourself? Are you trying to please everyone else? This needs to stop and you need to sometimes put your own happiness first. Or is it the reverse? Are your limiting beliefs telling you that you are not good enough and that is holding you back from something your heart dearly desires? In that case you need more faith in yourself and your abilities and to just ‘do it’. Often you will find you are more capable than you expected.
Eating habits and your health
These have a lot to do with your happiness. If you eat the wrong foods then they will impact on your weight, physical health and moods. A high sugar and fatty diet may give you a sugar rush but it will impact on all three of these. It is therefore important to have a healthy diet of fruit, vegetables and protein and some carbohydrates. It is important to eat smaller meals at least 5 times a day rather than large ones and to not overeat. Drink plenty of water, get enough sleep, exercise a few times a week for about an hour at a time and you will find that on all levels your health and energy levels will improve.
There are many people that will help you put into place ways to make your life happier. See a therapist, a naturopath, a nutritionist, an energy worker, get a massage, fix your back with a chiropractor if you need to, use NLP to change those patterns and get a check-up with a doctor every six months with a blood test. No person is an island. We all need people around us to assist us in our lives. All of these practitioners can make your life easier and happier so every so often consult a professional to help you stay on track with your health and goals.