Everyone says ‘think positively’ but no-one really tells you what that means. It can mean different things to different people. Some people who have a lot of bad things happen to them no longer have a definition of what ‘thinking positively’ means anymore. So no matter how hard they try to think positively they fall back into a negative way of thinking. There is a simple way though to begin to build up your tool kit and the New Year is a good time to start.
Exercise is a great way to start your year. It could be gentle like be Yoga or Tai Chi. Exercise increases your circulation, gets your endorphins working and your heart pumping. Even gentle exercise. Go for a walk to the local park or round the block if you don’t want to pay for your exercise. No need to join a gym. There are lots of free ways to exercise if you want to get moving and your body and mind will thank you for them. If you are having crippling negative thoughts it’s a good way to shift your attention and keep your mind busy while your body works on releasing the stress. Start your day with a list of things to accomplish that day to make it more productive and even include some time to learn meditation there. That makes a perfect balance for body and mind.
Meditation & Journaling
Meditation is one of the key ways to stop those crippling negative thoughts. Always use a guided meditation so when your mind wanders you have someone’s voice to bring your mind back instead of just falling asleep or daydreaming. Couple with your meditation a journal where you write down some of the good things that you can be grateful for in your life. Even little things on this list will help achieve and keep you in a positive frame of mind. What this does is help you highlight the positives in your life rather than focusing on the negative. These little things could be the fact that you arrived at work on time today or that you got that task done that you have been putting off for a while, anything that lets you focus on the positive.
It is also a good idea to take a look at the environment you live and work in because surrounding yourself with other positive people is important as it helps keep you elevated and positive. If people around you are critical or demanding it will pull you down so if you are in a negative situation in your environment start planning how to change things so you can move on from that situation.
Use your energy creatively
Sometimes helping someone out can alter your state of mind. It could be as simple as helping an elderly person with shopping bags or putting someone else’s shopping carts out of the way of the cars in the car park. It could be reaching up onto a shelf for someone or getting your neighbour’s bin off the road. A series of small things will not only make you feel good but other people as well.
Negative thinking attracts negative thinking. This is one of the laws of attraction so remember that to stop those thoughts that drag you down. You can use positive affirmations to change your mood. If you wake up thinking you will have a good day you are more likely to have a good day. It’s important to fight those negative thought patterns that are trying to tell you otherwise. These patterns can be undone by a few good therapy sessions. Affirmations such as, ‘I am a beautiful person, I can do this, things will get better and better’ are only three affirmations that will begin to deprogram and reprogram your negative mind.
Never dwell on your negative thoughts, isolating yourself or sulking. Get up, move, exercise, watch a movie, read, walk the dog, phone a friend – anything you like to do, something that is fun. Surrounding yourself with friends and family that also have a positive mindset who can help you look at the things that frustrate you, let you have your rant, get it off your chest and give you good positive motivational feedback is one of the best ways to enlist help in changing those patterns.
The key is to stop those negative thoughts from taking over your life. Get the ammunition to face them and accept them and then move on from dwelling on them and being stuck. Everyone at some point has negative thoughts and it’s the way we deal with them that makes all the difference, so seek help. There is always help out there.