Often days at work are long and the day to day chores at home of running the kids here, there and everywhere, makes stress a modern day hazard of our lifestyles. Whether you are finding that you are becoming snappy, not sleeping, or worrying about what tomorrow will bring it’s easy to forget to take time out to breathe and relax. Stress can affect you in many ways and it is important to find ways that suit you to calm yourself and relax.
A good way to create some ‘feel good’ energy is to volunteer some of your time to a cause you support. This can also be a great way to meet new people. Extending a hand in friendship is a great way to not only feel good about yourself but make someone else feel good about themselves. It’s important though to make sure there are some healthy boundaries in place so people do not also take advantage of your kindness.
If you are you the person that always says ‘yes’ when someone asks you to do something, even if you are finding it difficult to fit everything in, or if find you agree to things you really don’t want to do, then it is important to realise that it is ok to say ‘no’ sometimes. Putting boundaries in place may be difficult at first as people will not be used to hearing you say ‘no’, but once you learn this skill it will lower your stress levels. It is not healthy to spend your life always doing things to please everyone else instead of things that make you happy.
Another way to help you relax would be writing a journal or a positive note to yourself every day. This can help you start your day in a positive way and set the tone for the rest of the day. When you are starting to think negatively writing down something positive everyday can change your whole thought process. If you are the person who spends quite a bit of time complaining, not only is it probably getting on everyone else’s nerves but it isn’t good for your thought process either. Complaining means negative thinking and this is what we need to avoid as you will bring into your world all the negative things you think about, and before you know it you will be on a roller coaster of one drama after another in your life. So write down the things that are stressing you out so you can get them out of your mind and then toss them away, symbolically throwing away your stresses.
Of course one of the simplest ways to relieve stress is laughing. Spend time with your friends and family and have fun, laugh or watch a funny movie. Grab a friend and go out and dance, listen to music, go to karaoke. You can even dance, sing or listen to music while doing your housework.
Finally why not work on developing the skill of meditation. It is something you will have for the rest of your life. The relaxation will improve your state of mind and outlook on life. You will begin to feel calm and relaxed. There are many meditation courses around that will help you develop your skill and my clinic holds regular classes the first Wednesday of every month. There are many different techniques to meditate and you need to find the one that suits you. Under the guidance of a skilful teacher you will easily develop the skill. The key to mediation however is constant practice, as with any skill, and the more you practice the better you will get, the more relaxed you will feel and the calmer your life will be.
There are many ways to relax, these are just a handful, perhaps put just one of these into practice for a month and see where it leads you. At the end of the month your life will be a little different. Then pick another one, for the next month. Slowly your life will change. from stress to harmony.